Being Dumped Versus the Dumper!

Dear Victim,

Firstly, stop victimizing yourself! After being dumped, it is important to empower yourself. Admit that life was normal without the person, and it surely will again be. Yes, the colorful memories would hurt, but don’t you think you deserved them: since you were the only one intended!

Being cheated is not shameful, as much as ‘cheating’ is. Disgrace is for the person who just proved to be unworthy, the way you embraced him/her.

 Whatever the reason be, isn't it great that accidentally you are out of the unethical commitment, much before the complex mess you guys would have been contributing to. But if you are a person who seldom opens up, you have a reason to be upset. You would definitely not want the person back in your life again. Your maturity would not let you hate the person too. You would rather pity the person’s cowardliness and insensitivity. Out of all the choices you had, you would regret: Who did you choose, to open up to?

It is not a fairy tale to have a dedicated angel to fix your wounds. Sometimes the fairy is in You: YOURSELF. Dig your own thoughts to help yourself overcome the darkness. AND STOP LISTENING TO THOSE SAD SONGS!

And Our Dearest Accused & the Silent Observers (the so-called Friends of the accused),

If after cheating or mocking someone’s emotions, your conscience does not question you; you ain’t yet bothered about the psychological status of the person you dumped? In fact you are happy, and perhaps have moved on with another one in your arms? Raising toast with same old friends, who used to catch up and appreciate the older one as much as they welcome the new one? Or perhaps they liked the new one more, because they can’t argue on your decisions: Your Life, Your RULEZZ!!! Then you should just not worry about the person anymore, nor should your Friends! Worry about yourselves! You lack the emotions basis which you could have claimed to be a human!

And never call yourself Daring, or for that matter, a MAN. You did not have the guts to confront or move out ‘ethically’!

Although for your victim, it is better to have been lifted now, than to have been abandoned forever, but you are that LEECH, the One WRONG CHOICE that would perhaps CLOSE all the right gates too!

And don’t just worry about what should be done to you. We leave that to Karma! If not you, we are sure you would have someone beloved already, or perhaps soon, to be taken care of. Just start taking extra care of your most beloved from now on!

They recommend: "Acknowledge the one who expresses to have been truly in love with you". Crap! 'They' have been spoiling many lives by quoting from some book by an impractically mad man. Rarely anybody means what they say these days, but for ease just prepare a proposal with the help of some romantic books or internet or friends. Practically, you should also see who is right for you, and NEVER SETTLE for ANYTHING you THINK you DON'T DESERVE!!!! Someone, who would not ask to change, but keep contributing to Improve YOU.

 So when next time, someone says: "I would take care of you, and everything that belongs to you!", or even, "Let's try this out, I promise it would be fine, otherwise I promise to keep things back in place (friendship), as they were, like nothing happened ever!" Just ask yourself to assess if it's a TRAP: 'Can he or she really do what just said?', "How?", "Does he have a secret magic wand or a TIME MACHINE, I am unaware of? :O :P Your questions are not embarrassing the person or the ability, but respecting yourself, to which the right person should really not have any problem! And BEWARE of the: "But, I want you to change this habit of yours!" Just throw whatever comes to hand, straight onto the face, IN YOUR MIND!

Disclaimer: I have been criticized to be more of a feminist, however, I expect this post would be a rebuttal or a compensation.