Being Dumped Versus the Dumper!

Dear Victim,

Firstly, stop victimizing yourself! After being dumped, it is important to empower yourself. Admit that life was normal without the person, and it surely will again be. Yes, the colorful memories would hurt, but don’t you think you deserved them: since you were the only one intended!

Being cheated is not shameful, as much as ‘cheating’ is. Disgrace is for the person who just proved to be unworthy, the way you embraced him/her.

 Whatever the reason be, isn't it great that accidentally you are out of the unethical commitment, much before the complex mess you guys would have been contributing to. But if you are a person who seldom opens up, you have a reason to be upset. You would definitely not want the person back in your life again. Your maturity would not let you hate the person too. You would rather pity the person’s cowardliness and insensitivity. Out of all the choices you had, you would regret: Who did you choose, to open up to?

It is not a fairy tale to have a dedicated angel to fix your wounds. Sometimes the fairy is in You: YOURSELF. Dig your own thoughts to help yourself overcome the darkness. AND STOP LISTENING TO THOSE SAD SONGS!

And Our Dearest Accused & the Silent Observers (the so-called Friends of the accused),

If after cheating or mocking someone’s emotions, your conscience does not question you; you ain’t yet bothered about the psychological status of the person you dumped? In fact you are happy, and perhaps have moved on with another one in your arms? Raising toast with same old friends, who used to catch up and appreciate the older one as much as they welcome the new one? Or perhaps they liked the new one more, because they can’t argue on your decisions: Your Life, Your RULEZZ!!! Then you should just not worry about the person anymore, nor should your Friends! Worry about yourselves! You lack the emotions basis which you could have claimed to be a human!

And never call yourself Daring, or for that matter, a MAN. You did not have the guts to confront or move out ‘ethically’!

Although for your victim, it is better to have been lifted now, than to have been abandoned forever, but you are that LEECH, the One WRONG CHOICE that would perhaps CLOSE all the right gates too!

And don’t just worry about what should be done to you. We leave that to Karma! If not you, we are sure you would have someone beloved already, or perhaps soon, to be taken care of. Just start taking extra care of your most beloved from now on!

They recommend: "Acknowledge the one who expresses to have been truly in love with you". Crap! 'They' have been spoiling many lives by quoting from some book by an impractically mad man. Rarely anybody means what they say these days, but for ease just prepare a proposal with the help of some romantic books or internet or friends. Practically, you should also see who is right for you, and NEVER SETTLE for ANYTHING you THINK you DON'T DESERVE!!!! Someone, who would not ask to change, but keep contributing to Improve YOU.

 So when next time, someone says: "I would take care of you, and everything that belongs to you!", or even, "Let's try this out, I promise it would be fine, otherwise I promise to keep things back in place (friendship), as they were, like nothing happened ever!" Just ask yourself to assess if it's a TRAP: 'Can he or she really do what just said?', "How?", "Does he have a secret magic wand or a TIME MACHINE, I am unaware of? :O :P Your questions are not embarrassing the person or the ability, but respecting yourself, to which the right person should really not have any problem! And BEWARE of the: "But, I want you to change this habit of yours!" Just throw whatever comes to hand, straight onto the face, IN YOUR MIND!

Disclaimer: I have been criticized to be more of a feminist, however, I expect this post would be a rebuttal or a compensation.

Commotion in the River

I flow Naturally
Resonating the Melancholic Rhythm
Being the Paradise to sit beside
from staring at Your Own face
To the Stars on its surface..
Don't shy away from the responsibilities of the Dependent Lives..
Yet am Sweet, Swift, Mischievous, Unpredictable: Full of Life!
Until I am stopped by Your Machineries
Attempting to Mould my way
Or Restrict my Flow...

I bear the Forced calmness now
Heaping to a Suffocation
A volcano erupting in Me,

soon preparing to burst
Would Break away all the Walls
Destroy each who Tied Me
The soothing persona
Would convert to
a Weapon of Mass destruction!!

Do the Disabled lack Ability or Abled have Disability?

I just saw an old man sitting alone at a roadside with his tools. Its post noon, yet he is hopeful that someone would come to appoint him, for some work at their house. Either he would get paid a half-day now, or he would have to keep coming daily until he fulfills the promise of few pennies that he must has been making everyday to his family.

 Everyday is a struggle for fitting our incompetency in the void, which is starving for perfection; in the world where ideally nobody is supposed to be perfect. Yet who cares of the increasing numbers in cases of depression or stress, nervous breakdowns, or the worse: suicides.

Amidst all these, we forget to think of the strata coexisting in our society with a significant percentage: the disabled, often called as differently-abled, for the sympathetic encouragement though. Shonali Bose's 'Margarita with a Straw' is a beautifully woven film where she has narrated every aspect of such lives that is although so common, yet or infact, hence gets unnoticed. One-hour and forty minutes to feel handful of the life. The film deals with all, not missing anything that I can think of. And the ending is the best justice that can be done to this film, and may be applicable for anybody. 'Until one can stay happy with oneself, can respect oneself: can expect others to do so too."

 The system now has developed the consciousness to provide the disabled the right to rub shoulders with others. Families continuously put in efforts to make them independent, so that even they can 'live' after them. But sadly, we do not yet have an infrastructure to give them access to go everywhere they wish to go. Perhaps because our narrow mindedness can't expect them to have a normal social life, forget about them hitting the bars, consume hard drinks, and dance (atleast move with the beats). Forget the society, ironically the families themselves haven't yet accepted their 'normal' desires completely. They have reluctance to take them out to avoid the hassle of handling them, slowing the pace, the continuous stare and the questions that follow.

 The last thing their caretakers can think of is getting them married. The search revolves around in perhaps looking for a disabled or someone who is economically weak, or can be settled in exchange of a handsome dowry. Sail the boat towards the edge and get rid of it. Not their fault- how many of us would love to marry them if ever a connection develops, putting the disability at a side? Those who still choose to discriminate, are they really sure that a disability can never hit a 'normal' individual anytime in life?

The discrimination affects their self-esteem, which nobody cares for. As per the society, they don't need motivation, but sympathy! How many advertisements that we see, have employed handicaps in the lead?

 As such individuals are taken care like a kid in their houses, the larger context of their lives often gets wiped off from their families' mind: their sexuality. How many of us have ever confronted of them acquiring a sexual desire, to flirt, feel intimate, to masturbate or to even have a 'natural' sex. I intentionally added 'natural' to signify how their non-denial or weakness can be an advantage to those who get enjoyment in exploiting.  If finding a partner for them has been a task, imagine how would we deal with the ones with different 'sexual' orientation- that perhaps is another disease for our society. So if we are not ready to deal with our own constructed apprehensions, whom should we consider as abled and whom as disabled? Since the system has already categorized who are 'disabled', what I can think of to categorize people with such mentality is 'SICK'.

I plead everyone to watch the movie, think about it, and post opinions and feedback (if any).